How To Talk So Kids Will Listen
& Listen So Kids Will Talk - Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish
Jan 12, 2009
In How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, there are exercises and assignments that show parents how to put new skills into action. With this convenient how-to format, parents can take their time going through the exercises with confidence.
Punishment Vs. Natural Consequences
Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish support natural consequences as opposed to punishments. Children learn not to repeat certain behaviors faster if they suffer the consequences for their actions.
Here are a couple of examples of the difference between natural consequences and punishment:
- A daughter purposely tips over her brother’s dinner and it splatters all over the floor. As a punishment, the parents send their daughter to her room. A natural consequence would be for the child to clean up the mess herself.
- A mother prods her children to get ready to leave for school on time. She tells them if they’re late, their punishment will be that they’re grounded. A natural consequence would be to let them be late and have to go to the office for a late slip when they get to school.
Problem Solving
In How To Talk So Kids Will Listen, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, (ISBN-10: 0380811960, publisher Collins Living, 1999), learn step-by-step simple and effective ways of teaching your children how to problem solve.
Encouraging Autonomy
When children are allowed to make choices, take risks and make mistakes, they become more confident in their own abilities. Independent children can then meet challenges confidently because they’ve learned from experience.
Freeing Children From Playing Roles
Parents are discouraged from labeling children permanently with negative characteristics. If children hear parents say positive things about them, they’ll feel better about themselves.
About Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish are best-selling authors and parenting experts. They have three children each so have practical parenting experience. They also had ten years of experience working with renowned child psychologist, Dr. Haim Ginott. Many of their parenting workshop kits are now available on DVD.
Liberated Parents/Liberated Children was their first book and it won the Christopher Award for "literary achievement affirming the highest values of the human spirit." On their website Faber Mazlish Workshops, there are books for children, workshop programs, DVDs and videos. Their workshops and books are also effective learning tools for mental health care professionals and teachers.
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